"it's in those moments of sadness, anger, ecstasy, and lust that we can freak out and fall, or just relax and go with it. once we are comfortable on our boards, we can carve it up, analyze it, just play. and when a beautiful wave comes, perhaps we fall in love or hold a newborn baby, we can catch it, maybe even get inside the hollow tube and see its beautiful emptiness. but we will know as the wave ends not to be attached. it's just a bunch of salt water."
- the zen of surfing by jaimal yogis
its been hard being in relationships that eventually don't work out the way you planned. everyone gets hurt. when you feel so much love for someone, you give them a part of you, something they never asked for you to do but you give it anyway. so you can't deny the hurt when things go wrong.
what's the usual scenario after this? for those that even consider that they are no longer the person they thought they were when they entered their relationships, and with the abrupt end -- doubts are everywhere. you begin to question the things that for a time you really believed in -- like true friendship, love, and sharing your life with someone. You begin to question the basic idea of love.
we've all been burned. every single one of us. we've all had our hopes broken down to pieces. we've all seen the cracked mirror images of ourselves. and we deal with it in our own individual ways. we try to get by. we choose to get by.
and taking this "not to be attached" perspective is in itself, one of the different ways we handle the situation. for some people, this will probably serve as a new perspective in life...a new belief...a new dogma to live by.
but how can you really love without getting too attached? what is love to those people who believe that in life, things and people are just momentary (even if its the truth)? how can you love and share your life with someone with the intent of not getting too attached. aren't the two the exact opposite of each other? can we say the same with our own families? how can you hold a baby in your hand and love her/him..yet hold back? how can you muster the courage to tell yourself that if that little baby you're holding finally finds its way "home" to where we all came from, that it will be okay because you won't get too attached?
acceptance is hard when you do not fully understand the truth that you want to embrace.
perhaps it is not in defining things and feelings that we get the answer. all the geniuses of the world can rationalize both sides of a coin and make them come across as strong truths. but who defines truth? even the truth, as the philosophers claim it, can be bounded and justified to be either truth or false depending on the perspective taken. but who can question happiness? who can set its limits? who can question thoughtfulness and contentment? who can rationalize those feelings?
there's no point to set boundaries to how we should live life. i think its one of the biggest misconceptions...to actually say to yourself that the way to enjoy life is not to do this and not to do that.
enjoy the waters,
enjoy the moments...
ride each wave if you must
but don't hold back
don't fear getting too attached
let your heart and mind take its own battle.
don't ever hold back...
to say you've truly lived.
ride every wave.
Doodle